‘It’s still not real to me’: Andrew’s mother mourns her daughter, victim of domestic violence

The national domestic violence hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). TTY: 1-800-787-3224. You can also text “START” to 88788. You can visit their website at thehotline.org. The hotline is free, confidential and open 24/7.

The West Texas Crisis Center hotline is 1-866-6274747. You can visit their website at ccwtx.org. The West Texas crisis center shelter, Louise Wood Angel House, remains open to survivors and their underage children fleeing domestic and sexual violence. CCWTX services, including education, counseling, legal services, case management, and reboot classes, are offered both in person and online, where possible.

If you are in an emergency and need immediate assistance from the local police department, call 9-1-1.

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ANDREWS, Texas (KMID/KPEJ) — Yazmin Iniguez would have turned 36 on July 2.

But Yazmin’s infectious laughter, dry humor, comforting presence and tender compassion will be absent from the celebration.

The mother of four tragically lost her life in June. Yazmin was a victim of domestic violence, her mother said.

“She loved it very much. If you were his friend, you were his friend for life, Yazmin’s mother Julie said.

Julie Iniguez talks about Yazmin’s murder, hoping that her daughter’s death could save a life.

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Julie is sitting in front of dozens of printed photos. She remembers each photo, where it was taken, when it was taken, before laying them carefully on the table. She feels them with her maternal touch.

“That’s when she started her modeling career. Modeling career! Julie happily recalls. “Her career as a photographer.

The photos are of Julie’s eldest daughter, Yazmin, whose life has been captured in small but frequent snapshots.

“She takes really good pictures…. She did,” Julie said. “It’s still not real to me. I feel like I’m going to go see her.

On Sunday, May 22, officers from the Andrews Police Department were called to Yazmin’s home on NE 2nd Street. There, the police found Yazmin with life-threatening injuries.

Yazmin was taken to Permian Regional Medical Center and then airlifted to a hospital in Lubbock. Yazmin died on June 4, her mother said.

Police have arrested Yazmin’s suspected killer. It was her husband, Raymond Fierro. The two had been married for only a year. Fierro is charged with murder. He is being held in Andrews County Jail without bond.

“He took something precious from me. I told him, ‘Don’t hurt my baby,'” says Julie.

Yazmin had four of her own children.

“Being a mother was everything to her,” Julie said. “She took care of her children. She loved her children. She adored her children.

Julie says her grandchildren noticed Yazmin’s beauty, intelligence, and even Yazmin’s sarcastic wit.

“One of the legacies they inherited is sleeping all day,” laughed Julie.

But most importantly, Julie said Yazmin taught her children to be self-sufficient. It was something their mother valued the most: independence.

“Just recently, she repaired a window in her house. Yasmin had just repaired a window.

Without Yazmin by her side, Julie isn’t content to talk about her daughter’s life and legacy.

She talks about the death of her daughter.

Julie pleads to open ears that relationships should be free from violence and abuse, whether physical or emotional.

“As soon as you see a red flag, run and stay clear,” Julie said. “And focus on those little things, focus on your kids. A man can come and go, but not your children.

Julie added, “The most important thing is to love yourself first before you can offer your love to someone else.”

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Yourbasin.com reporter Rob Tooke spoke with the Crisis Center of West Texas about its available services and the first step for those who are ready for help but don’t know where to start.

To do the first step

CCWTX Director of Prevention Services Hannah Horick said anyone willing to take the first step to getting help should call the CCWTX hotline at +1 (866) 627-4747. People can reach out for more information about the services they can avail of. Horick said that after calling the hotline, the caller will be asked three questions: (1) Are you in immediate danger? (2) Is this a safe number to call you back? (3) Can you tell us about your situation? Horick said the caller can be connected to “a whole world of services” simply by calling the hotline.

Hannah Horick, Director of Prevention Services at CCWTX, talks about the first steps to getting help

Hesitation to take the first step

Horick said it can be difficult for someone to make that first cry for help because (a) they care about the person who abuses them and don’t want to see the abuser in trouble, (b) the abuser is the sole income for the family and there is concern that financial security will be compromised by asking for help/initiating a conflict with the abuser, (c) shame and embarrassment may prevent a person from ask for help.

Horick responds to hesitation to ask for help

Services offered at the Crisis Center of West Texas

Horick said CCWTX strives to provide “comprehensive” services to survivors of sexual and domestic violence. CCWTX serves adults who experience either type of abuse. If you’re a survivor, Horick said your kids can also access CCWTX resources. This includes access to a “state-of-the-art” emergency shelter, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, which has 61 beds and 16 rooms. Horick calls the shelter a healing environment for people seeking refuge from violence. Non-resident services are also provided, including unlimited counseling and case management. A case manager will advocate for you, help you set goals and keep you safe, Horick said. Legal services for civil matters can also be provided to survivors and their families. An educational outreach team also works with at-risk youth in the community to better ensure their future well-being.

Horick talks about the services offered at the Crisis Center of West Texas

Types of domestic violence

Horick said there are four main types of abuse, namely: physical, emotional, financial and sexual.

These broad categories can also include coercion and manipulation.

Examples of abuse may include controlling a person’s movements, controlling a person’s finances, controlling a person’s ability to see friends and family, controlling a person’s ability person to go to church or check whether a person can work. These are just a few examples of how violent a partner can be.

How to help if you are a worried family member

Horick said it could be helpful for families to realize that domestic violence is “everyone’s business”. She said it is possible for an abuse victim to hide their abuse because they think it should be kept private, or in the knowledge of their immediate family or household. Horick said domestic violence is prevalent in Texas, with 1 in 4 Texans experiencing some form of severe physical abuse in their lifetime. If a loved one has behavioral changes, is observed withdrawing from family relationships and friendships, or has bruises or marks of physical abuse on their body, affected family members are encouraged to contact CCWTX through the hotline. at +1 (866) 627-4747. Advice can be given on how to have difficult conversations with a loved one.

Horick said his advice to a family member would be to start from a position of caring rather than blame. A family member can start a conversation with a loved one by sharing their observations of abuse and then identifying the evidence that makes that family member feel there is abuse going on. It’s also important to remind a loved one that you care and want to see them in a happy and healthy relationship, Horick said. Offering support is also important, whether it’s sitting with the survivor on their first phone call or driving your loved one to their first appointment; even helping them with household chores can be a tremendous support.

“Be that support network for someone and know that sometimes people aren’t ready to go,” Horick said. “If they’re not ready yet, continue to be there for that person. Don’t give up after that first try.

Horcik explains possible avenues to help a loved one in an abusive relationship

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